Why are you yelling?
Have you noticed that some people are just yellers? Not necessarily all the time, mostly when they get perturbed.
I was in the car with my 4yr old granddaughter the other day and we were talking about how bossy people don’t have a lot of friends. She was telling me she had to yell at people when they did certain things. I told her that the only time she should be yelling is if there is an emergency. If she was going to put her hand on a hot stove, I would yell at her. She agreed and said that if the house was on fire she could yell. I confirmed that.
Then I took it a step further. I suggested that maybe her parents could ask her if there was an emergency when she yelled at them, and if there wasn’t that she should not yell.
To my amazement – it worked. She yelled at me about something and I asked if this was an emergency. She looked at me, and with a sheepish grin, said that it wasn’t. I told her parents about the conversation and when she yelled at her daddy, he asked her if it was an emergency. It stopped her mid-word. She had to admit it wasn’t.
Of course, this is all new. Who knows if it will continue to work. It does seems to cause her to pause and think about what she is doing and be able to realize she’s yelling for the sake of expressing her emotion. Being able to express anger and frustration in a normal tone is a sign of maturity. Hopefully, she’s on her way to understanding this concept.
Have a yeller in your family? Give the idea a try, it might just work – grin.