NewDirection Life Coaching

This title could lead to many possible topics.  I overheard it as part of someone’s telephone conversation.  It was a woman, in the airport, seemingly alone, walking past me.  I heard, “We’re in a fight. <pause> No, we’re in a fight.”  Her intonation and my guessing led me to believe she was talking about her relationship with her significant other, and I thought, “Wow, I gotta blog about this.”

It made me think about Facebook relationship statuses.  Okay so I am checking the options out – we have… Single, in a relationship, engaged, married, it’s complicated, in an open relationship, widowed, separated, divorced, in a civil union, and in a domestic partnership.  Whoa, that’s a lot of options.  I suppose they could add “all of the above” – teehee.  Anyway, no “in a fight” option, although I would bet if they added it, people would use it.

What kind of way to describe a relationship is “in a fight?”  I mean, you’re not actually in a fight when you say it like that.  There is no one near you that you are fighting with.  Maybe you’re having a fight, which could be over a period of time, but unless you are fighting right then, you are not in a fight (in my opinion).

So if you’ve had a disagreement with your significant other wouldn’t it be a good idea to work it out?  This woman was getting on a plane while in a fight.  Do you really want to go away with an unresolved issue?  I’ll give you that if it’s a very recent disagreement, some time might be needed for calmer heads to prevail.  I’m not someone who wants to discuss something I’m upset about right away.  I don’t want to cause more problems with unkind words, so I will take some time to cool down and think about how I want to get my point across before I jump into the fray – grin.  However, I can’t imagine getting on a plane while there is an unresolved issue with another family member.  Maybe that’s just me & I’m the strange one – who knows.

I will say that you may want to consider mending fences with the person you are in a fight with before you board a plane.  You never know when it may be the last time you see that person.  Wouldn’t it be nice if your last words were, “I love you.”?

Tags: change, fight, love, NewDirection, relationships