We can’t control everything

We can’t control everything

How many of you stress and/or worry about things that are not in your control? 

When people ask me how I’m doing, if I really give an honest answer… I’m fine.  My life is going along pretty well. 

Now, if I start thinking about the people around me and some of the issues they are having – and let those issues affect me – worrying about, stressing over, getting all dramatic about someone else’s struggles and feeling as if they are my own personal struggles – I might have a very different answer. 

While talking to my mom recently, she commented, “Wow, you have a lot going on.”  I told my mom that I really didn’t, other people did, and I am happy to help out when needed, but other people having a lot going on should not have an effect on me.  Her response was, “Good for you!”

So many people live their lives in total chaos, trying to live others people’s lives for them.  They get so involved in “helping” (or trying to control) that they take the other person’s issues personally.  Then when things don’t go as they planned, in the other person’s life, they get all upset. Things won’t change for those around you, until they decide to make the change. The trick is, learning to control what’s in your own life and let others have control of their lives. 

It’s the same with natural disasters, national crisis, and global pandemic.  Unless we are a person. in a power position in one of these situations, (with natural disasters, that is no one), there is not much we can do to control things.  I’m seeing and hearing many people stressing out about what’s happening with local businesses, or school decisions, global health, or racial tension.  The reality is, there are other people, besides us, who are making the decisions.  Sure, we can try to influence those choices by making our voices heard, but the final decision is out of our hands.  Stressing about things that are out of our control only causes is anguish and health problems.

The trick to having a relatively calm and peaceful life isn’t to move to the mountains and become a hermit.  It is to do what you can when you can and trust that the people making the decisions will make the best choices. Even better, for me, is trusting that God has a plan and has things under control.  Coming to the realization that there is truly nothing you can do, so there is no sense stressing about, it is a very freeing moment. Give it a try!