Jim often reminds me that I have “But First Syndrome” (BFS). No, I’m not walking backwards. I have numerous things going on at once, and as I remember something, I go do it and leave what I was doing, until I walk by it again. I know some of you know what I’m talking about! I need to get this done, but first I need to do this, and oh – I need to do this, too.
A friend and I have been talking about the idea, from Mark Gungor, that men have boxes for brains and women have spaghetti for brains. Men seem to be able to compartmentalize things and move the boxes to the front, or back of their minds when necessary. Thereby thinking about one thing at a time, or making use of the empty box and truly thinking about nothing. Women think about many different things at the same time, which are often intertwined, so that their thought process resembles spaghetti.
It’s an interesting concept and funny to think about, especially when you see it in action.
Like, right now I have a bunch of items on my bed that need to get packed into a moving box, along with the things in my nightstand. I had a legitimate reason to leave them, as it was time to get dinner. Now that I’m in the kitchen area, where my computer is, I’ve decided it’s time to get my blog written, but I will need to go back and get that box packed before I can go to bed tonight.
I tend to think of my BFS as prioritizing. I had to get dinner, I need to write my blog, and I need to pack that box – in that order. I’m not stressing about getting everything done, it will all get done before 10PM this evening. My spaghetti brain priorities may look like BFS to my husband, but I know what’s going on in there, and that’s what counts, right?
Yes, men and women are different, and that’s a wonderful thing. It’s what makes life so enjoyable, chuckling with the other person about your differences.
Now, what was it I was going to do? Oh yeah…..
*Pam Horton is a certified Stress Management coach in the Raleigh area.*