Only those who have lived it really understand the realities of war

Only those who have lived it really understand the realities of war

I have just returned from a volunteer shift at the USO of NC at RDU, and am sitting down to ponder what to write about this week.

I have spent the last few weeks helping to plan an upcoming Understanding PTSD Symposium at our church, hosted by our Military Family Support Group.

Yesterday, someone asked me if I had seen American Sniper. I told them “No, I don’t like those kinds of movies. I don’t really want to know what my son went through during his deployment.”

You see, I am an Army brat (daughter of a career Army man) and the mom of an Army infantry veteran. I understand the military better than most Americans. Only one percent of Americans join the military, so while amongst other military families, we get it, but out in the general population, I understand it better than most.

This morning I read a couple of blogs about American Sniper that my friends had posted on Facebook. I thought, rather than write my own I would share their perspective. Afterall, I have yet to see the movie.

This first one is from a spouses view.
It offers a little more insight into the lives of military families. One thing it does say is that, even though this movie tries hard to capture the hearts of a military family, you really have to have lived it to understand it.

This one is from a Social Studies teacher, a civilian. I don’t say that in a bad way, just to express that she has no actual military family experience. She offers some wonderful insight…

Both of these blogs suggest seeing the movie. They say it is wonderful, while also being horrifying and realistic. I don’t want to see it. I didn’t want to see Saving Private Ryan. I did watch it, once, because everybody should. I didn’t see Restrepo. It came out during my son’s deployment. He told me not to watch it until he got back to the states. I have never watched it…. I don’t want to know.

I imagine I will see American Sniper, when it comes out on DVD, in the privacy of my own home. Like, Saving Private Ryan, it sounds like a movie everybody should see. I believe I will be a blubbering mess by the time it’s over, and probably won’t sleep well that night. I am Army Strong and I don’t like to cry, besides crying gives me a headache.

As a military family member and volunteer with military organizations, I know the realities of war, and yet I don’t because I’ve not been in a war. Only those who have lived it really understand the realities of war.

A huge heartfelt THANK YOU goes out to all of our military, veterans, and their families.
God bless you, and God bless the United States of America. HOOAH!

*Pam Horton is a Board Certified Advanced Christian Life Coach, with a passion for assisting Military Families.*

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