Lumping people together
Today I was lumped in with a group of people and called a bully. Seriously?
Someone commented, on another person’s post about being spoken to in an aggressive confrontational manner by someone who wanted to be their life coach, “Coaches are bullies.”
I don’t normally engage in social media posts that could cause friction, but on this one I had to comment. You see I am a coach, so I took this a little bit personally. My response was, “Hmmm. As a coach, who is not pushy… I think perhaps saying “Some coaches…” Please don’t lump us all together and labels all coaches bullies.”
I have had many conversations with people about lumping seemingly alike people into one group. My phrase is, “Don’t be a lumper.” They know what I mean if we’ve not discussed it before. I guess old habits are hard to break.
However, blanket statements like that are just ridiculous. Yes, there are SOME people who are complete jerks, but to lump an entire group of people like them together and start badmouthing the entire group is just wrong. We should not be judging an entire group of people on the actions of a few.
As Donnie Osmond sang, “One bad apple don’t spoil the whole bunch, Girl.” I suppose if you leave the bad apple in the barrel, it will affect those around it and spoil them, too. That’s still just one barrel. But, take heed, if you are hanging around with people who are negatively defining people by groups, it would be a good idea to distance yourself from them. As speaker Jim Rohn says, “We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with.”
If you find yourself lumping people into groups, take one giant positive step forward and start seeing each person as an individual. Judge people on their own merit, not because they remind you of someone who is a total jerk. You might discover your new best friend is someone you may never even have considered talking to before.
Less negativity in the world should be a goal for everyone.
1 Corinthians 13:13 Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.
*On a positive side note: said poster edited their statement to “Coaches are NOT bullies.” They apologized and said it was a typo.