Looks can be deceiving

Looks can be deceiving

What do you see in the following photo?

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A (slightly out of focus) pretty yellow flower, right?

Other than thinking the person taking the picture probably isn’t a professional photographer you would probably look at this and think, “What a nice plant.”  Ah, but you are only seeing a part of the picture (the part I want you to see).

Here’s the entire, uncropped and true photo…


OH!  It a humungous WEED.  We can’t have that in our lawn.  It’s even putting out runners and will eventually choke out the grass and take over.

How often do we look at something and just see the pretty flower?  Oh yes, looks can be deceiving.

There are times when someone presents us with a flower and we are so thrilled to get it that we don’t see the weed that is attached to it.  If that is what’s happening, we are being deceived.

Other times, we choose to only see the flower, while ignoring the giant weed that comes with it.  In that case, we are deceiving ourselves.

Regardless of who is deceiving us, we should be paying closer attention to the entire picture.  It does not benefit us to only see the good in people. Sure, we want to believe the best of everyone, but I don’t know anyone who is perfect (except Jesus).

We need to see people for who they really are because a person comes as an entire package.  You can’t take the best of them without taking the worst of them, too.  Some of us try, but those relationships typically won’t last long, whether they are personal or business.  If we choose only to see the pretty flower, we are living a lie and the weed will overtake us at some point.

This works in opposite, as well.  How often do we think poorly of someone based on what they look like or who they hang around with?  I know some absolutely wonderful unusual looking people.  If I didn’t take the time to get to know the whole person, the true picture, I would have missed out on a great friendship.

When it comes to people, you have to take the bad with the good.  Get to know someone before making a decision (unless it’s extremely obvious they are “bad news”, in which case run, don’t walk, away) about them.  Once you can make an informed decision, weigh the flower against the weed.  If the weed is much bigger than the flower, it’s best not be become involved with that person.  However, you may discover that the flower was bigger than you originally thought and you’ve made a new friend.

Pay attention because looks can be deceiving.


*Pam Horton is a Board Certified Advanced Christian Life Coach, in the Raleigh area.*



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