Let your parents ride the mower

Let your parents ride the mower

Back in October 2012, I posted an article called “Children and Chores: How to enjoy time with your kids.”  It was originally entitled “Ride the mower.” It talks about the importance of spending time with your children.

This week, I was talking with my mother and mentioned we are getting a ride-on lawn mower.  She asked if she could check it out on an upcoming visit.  I had to laugh to myself and thought, “Yup, “Ride the mower” applies to not only our kids, but (as we get older) our parents, too.”  Tee-hee.

Realistically, it’s true.  As we need to understand the importance of our children’s desire to spend time with us – we must also understand that, {as we get older and move away from home, and have children, and get busy with our own lives} our parent’s ALSO desire to spend time with us.  Okay, maybe not as much time as our children want, but still, once we are adults our parents do want to spend a little time with us.  It’s important to them.  They want to know how we’re doing, check out our new stuff (like a lawnmower – grin), see our children, and just connect with us.

Remember that song, Cats in the Cradle?  It’s very easy to be too busy to spend time with our children.  They, in turn, can learn to be so busy they don’t have time for us.  Teach your children that you value the opportunity to spend time with them.  They, in turn, will value the opportunity to spend time with us when they could very easily be too busy.

When was the last time you spent time with your parents?  Go ahead, pick up the phone and call them – or better yet, call them to plan a visit!

If you have past unpleasantness between you, it’s time to forgive each other and move forward.  Forgiveness doesn’t mean what happened is now acceptable, it just means you are not going to let it ruin the relationship anymore. Your parents will not be around forever.  Forgive and forget?  Not necessarily, but forgive and move forward, that’s the key.

Enjoy your weekend!  I’ll try to get a picture of my mom, riding the mower – grin.


*Pam Horton is a Board Certified Advanced Christian Life Coach, in the Raleigh area.*

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