Just Be Nice
I mean, seriously! How hard is it to just be nice?
Okay, I’ll admit, sometimes people can get under our skin, but is that an excuse to be rude to someone?
This thought process is being brought to you by a recent shopping experience. No, not a Black Friday example, although there seem to be plenty of those. I don’t actually brave those crazy crowds. This happened on December 31st…
I am a scrap booker and the first couple weeks of January are spent with my pictures for the year. I had sent them to W* to be printed. When I went to pick them up, I thought “Let me just go check out the Christmas items sale.”
There was hardly anything in the Christmas clearance area, but I did see some mini-lights. Our tree lights went “kaput” this year, so we needed some new ones. As I picked up one box, this woman (I can’t refer to her as a lady) came up behind me with her shopping cart, reached over top of me and started grabbing multiple boxes of lights. Wow.
I picked up a second box of lights and moved out of her way. She proceeded to place her cart in front of the display and continued to grab multiple boxes, as quickly as she could. There were plenty of boxes there, but it was as if she thought they would disappear before she could grab them. It was ridiculous. I thought we might need another box, so I carefully reached around the corner and picked up another box, being careful not to get into her clutches in the process. I must admit, I felt like I might lose my arm if I reached into the display.
Change of scenery… As I went to a different store to get my scrapbooking supplies, I saw it was next to an H* store and thought I’d go see what things they had on clearance. There as another lady looking at the ornaments and we sort of danced politely around each other with a couple of “excuse me’s” in the process. Quite a nice little interaction went on between us. We even smiled at each other. What a difference!
One might say it was the difference in the type of clientele each store attracts, which very well could be. I happen to think it was the personality of the individuals involved. I think you put either woman in the other store and they would react the same.
Of course, I have no clue what is going on in the lives of either person, but still… How difficult is it to be nice when you interact with people?
If you happen to resemble the 1st example, I would suggest you practice being nice to others. You can start with your family and your co-workers, then try it out on total strangers. You’ll be surprise at how pleasant the people around you can be when you are nice to them.
*Pam Horton is a Board Certified Advanced Christian Life Coach, in the Raleigh area.*