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How ya doin’?

I posted a quick status post about this earlier in the week.  I thought I might elaborate in this week’s BLOG – grin.

How do you answer when someone asks you “How are you?” or “How ya doin’?”  Think about it.  It happened to me just this evening.  I asked someone “How are you?” and she said, “I’m good, and you?”  I answered, “I’m good.”  Then I had that slap your forehead “V-8” moment and remembered that was NOT suppose to be my answer anymore.

I’m sure you have run across people whose answer to that question is something other than, “I’m good”, “I’m fine”, or “I’m well.”  Those are the standard answers we expect and just kind of acknowledge and go on about our day.  I’ll bet you’ve also run across “I’m super” (My dad’s response) or “I’m great” – terrific, fantastic, wonderful , and tonight I heard a new one… “I’m phenomenal.”  Wow, that’s pretty good.  I don’t hear those terms often, but each time I do, it causes me to pause and think about what they just said.  I usually say, “Wow!  That’s pretty good” which then starts a bit of a conversation.

So now really think about the people you meet in a day and the number of “I’m good”s you get.  They kind of all blend together.  The responses that stick out in your mind and make you smile are the unusual ones.  Most times I feel happy just having heard an unusual response and having a little back and forth with that person.

I have decided I don’t want to be giving the “normal” response.  (Define “normal” right? – teehee)  I’ve decided I want to be a person that makes other people happy by having that unusually pleasant response.  It won’t be easy, old habits are hard to break, like tonight when I said, “I’m good” and then caught myself afterwards.  I think “I’m doin’ great!” will be my new response.  You all have permission to hold me accountable to this, okay?  It will take a few weeks (“they” say it takes three weeks to form a new habit) so be kind, but I am going to make a good effort at having a better than average response to, “How ya doin’?”

What about you?  “How are YOU doing?”  Grin.

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4 Responses to “How ya doin’?”

  • Pam, I believe the answer starts by being mindful BEFORE we walk into an event or meeting. Being mindful of our attitude and thoughtfulness towards others is the foundation of serving THEM as our reason for being there. The engagement in our minds creates the engagement we have with others.

    Abe Lincoln said “A man is about as happy as he makes up his mind to be.” If we take that attitude to heart, then our response of “I’m phenomenal!” will be more than lip service. It’ll become the heart of OUR service.

    Charles

  • Dawn says:

    I am sleepy 😉

    I am doing exceedingly, abundantly above what I deserve

    I am just ‘okay’ — not great, but okay (not today, but that could be my answer some days)

    I am sad (again, not today)

    I am overwhelmed (yeah, a little of that today)

    Can we BE this real with each other?? To not always give the “happy” answer?? Oh, I hope so!!

    Great blog..

    • PamHorton says:

      Absolutely want to be real, and every once in a while I have asked someone I know who asks “Do you really want to know?” We both chuckle and go on about our day. I think to strive to be joyous for real is the goal, though. I mean – I truly am better than just good, and I’m probably better than great. I have a lot to be thankful for – grin. Have I been happy in a customer service situation when my world was falling apart? Yup, but they don’t need to know my issues, and they probably don’t care. Smile and the world smiles with you. Wouldn’t it be great if the whole world smiled? GRIN.


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