The grass is always greener…
This is a picture (as taken) of my parent’s property, in Vermont. Jim and I both remarked, “Look how green everything is!”
Then we discussed how much rain they have had this spring. They’ve had so much rain, and cool temperatures, this past May/June that they seldom had the opportunity to mow the grass. To look at the picture though, it’s wonderful.
How often do we have a “the grass is greener over there” thought? We all do it. We compare what we have to what others have and find ourselves lacking. What we seldom stop to think about is the work, hardship, or diligence that probably went into that person’s “greener grass.”
Yes, there are those lucky few who were born with a silver spoon in their mouths; everything seems to go their way. Even those people have to work to maintain what they have. How many rich and/or famous people have squandered their resources by poor judgement? Lots.
The rest of us have to work to get what we need or want. Many times the person with the greener grass has learned the value of hard work, or patience, or maybe the recovery from hard knocks that life can throw at you.
Let’s not be envious, jealous, or angry about our neighbors “greener grass.” Let’s rejoice with them for the things that are going good with them. If you would like to have “greener grass,” go ahead and ask them how they achieved the thing you would like to achieve as well. Chances are they’d be happy to share their knowledge with you.
If you happen to be the person with the greener grass, share your knowledge when someone asks for assistance. Even if all you did was do things inside for two months because it rained so much. You endured with patience. It could be the person you are talking to is going through their own storm right now and knowing they can endure it with patience and, eventually, the storm will pass and the sun will come out may be exactly what they need to hear.
You just never know what people are going through when you talk with them.
*Pam Horton is a Board Certified Advanced Christian Life Coach, in the Raleigh area.*