The other day I was down on the floor, while attempting to hold a plank exercise position, and trying to distract my brain from the discomfort my body was in. I started looking at the books on our coffee table shelf and got to thinking.
Jim & I have been blessed (and wise with our finances) to be able to take three major vacations. Two of which Jim made a little photo book for. Being a “scrapbooker” I have a travel scrapbook that highlights the same locations as Jim’s books. The funny thing is, our opinions on what to highlight about the vacations differ, greatly.
My pictures from our trip to Hawaii are mostly beaches, blue sky, flowers, and waterfalls. Jim’s pictures are almost all volcanic lava flowing. It must be a guy thing.
My pictures from Australia are lots of water, blue skies, the Great Barrier Reef, and wildlife. Jim’s favorite Australia pictures are all of the Sydney Opera House. Really?
Okay, I’m picking on Jim a little bit. Maybe I have an obsession with beautiful blue skies and beaches!
Or maybe we have differing opinions. For example, right now he’s practicing the mandolin while I am in here writing. He is expressing himself through music, and I am expressing myself through words.
We’re different, and we see things differently, but that’s okay. That is what makes each of us unique and our differences help the other person grow, as we grow together (not apart).
How about you?
Do you and your significant other have differing opinions? Perhaps you and your parents, or you and your children have differing opinions on certain topics.
Are you able to calmly voice your opinion and be respectfully heard by the other person? Are you allowing them the same option?
Are you trying to see things from their point of view? It’s true that two people can look at the same thing and see it completely differently!
Does that mean one of you is wrong? Not necessarily. You see, I can agree that the lava flowing was pretty cool and that the Opera House is a fantastic architectural example. Jim will agree that the beaches were white and the sky was colorful. You see, we can agree even when we have a different opinion.
When we try to see things from someone else’s perspective, they feel respected, and you may learn to appreciate something you hadn’t paid much attention to before. When we can appreciate each other’s differences, we can grow together, in harmony.
Peaceful harmony… that’s better than arguing and trying to prove your opinion is the right one anyday!
Have a fantastic weekend, and embrace those differing opinions.
*Pam Horton is a certified Stress Management coach in the Raleigh area.*