Dealing with the loss of a loved one.

Dealing with the loss of a loved one.

So much violence, sickness, desperation, and sadness in the world, so many people we know with loved ones passing away.

My family has been blessed we have not, as yet, had a parent leave this earth, and I hope we never have a child go before us. We have had friends pass away “before their time” in our human opinions. We have many friends and family members who have experienced the loss of a loved one recently.

It has been my observation that grief takes the same path of feelings of sadness and loss, leaving you to wonder how to fill the void that now exists in your life. That seems to be where the path branches.

I have seen people go down the path of bitterness that seems to eat them up and swallow them whole.

I have seen people sink into the pit of depression that they just can’t seem to get out of.

I have seen people rejoice and be thankful for the time they had with the person they lost.

I’m not sure what it is that drives a person down the path they end up on. It may be by choice, but I think most times, they discover they are on a sad path and don’t really know how to turn around and come to the path of happy memories, even though that’s where they desire to be.

I do know it helps to talk to someone, whether that is another family member, a dear friend, or a counselor. Emotional pain hurts and it helps to talk about it. I didn’t say fight about it; as I know some families that have had bitter battles within their family. That’s not healthy. Perhaps at that time a mediator can help smooth the waters. It’s so sad to see families break off ties with each other after a loved one has passed on.

I hope that everyone can come to the path of rejoicing and being thankful that they had whatever time was allotted to them to be with their loved ones. It seems like that is the way to find peace with the loss.

Love your loved ones well. Make sure they know they are loved. The world is a crazy place these days and you never know when your time is up.


*Pam Horton is a Board Certified Advanced Christian Life Coach, in the Raleigh area.*




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