Resilient, resilience, resiliency are all pretty popular catch words these days.
There have been lots of studies done on what causes one person to be more resilient than another, and many articles written about how to build your personal resilience.
It’s funny, our Twitter account was recently “followed” by a group that watched climate resilience. It appears it’s not just humans who are resilient. Think about it, animals also must be resilient.
www.merriam-webster.com states the definition of resilient as
• a : capable of withstanding shock without permanent deformation or rupture
• b : tending to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change
I like to think of being resilient as being able to bounce back (like Tigger) or roll with the punches, so to speak.
If you are a person who has experienced a traumatic event, or a shock, it may set you back for a time. Your personal level of resilience will determine how quickly you can resume your normal (I know, “define normal”) or maybe your “new-normal” life.
For some folks, it doesn’t take a traumatic event, but just a bump the in road, a disruption of their day and they are off course for a while.
There are things that people can do to become a more resilient person. It takes time and practice, but it can be done. Here’s a pretty good list…
(Graphic from Vanderbuilt.edu)
Some of these things involve other people. Often times a major change in our lives is best dealt with in connection with others. This may be a counselor, a coach, a support group, family member, non-judgmental friend, or pastor. It’s okay to reach out to others. We (the human race) were designed to live in community. That’s why God made Eve, so Adam wouldn’t be alone.
If you happen to live in the Raleigh, NC. area there is a fantastic event about resilience going on tomorrow morning, and it’s FREE. For more information about the Resilience and Recovery Symposium check out this link… http://gethope.net/event/2017-military-family-symposium/. We’ll be there. Maybe we’ll see you there!
*Pam Horton is a certified Stress Management Coach.