Awaiting the Unknown

Awaiting the Unknown

I write to encourage others to move positively forward. When I face my own challenges, I feel compelled to walk my talk.

We have a health situation with a family member and indications have been that it may not be an easy go from here on out. BUT, we don’t know, yet, what they are facing. Testing continues, and the final diagnosis, treatment, and prognosis will be revealed at the end of this month. It has been a loooong couple of months dealing with the unknown.

You’ve heard the phrase, “facing the unknown.” I’m not sure that’s the best way to say it. How can you “face” an unknown. I think the real difficulty comes in waiting for the unknown to be known. Once it is known, you can face it. You say, “This is what it is.” And ask, “How do we move forward now?” The unknown becomes tangible and you can form a plan to deal with the situation (pleasant or unpleasant).

I do believe many people struggle in the period of the unknown. How do you keep yourself, or your loved one, afloat in the crashing waves of the unknown?

Don’t worry. It’s hard, I know, but you can’t spend time worrying about the what-ifs of a situation. You will make yourself crazy. We are dealing with three possible scenarios. If we start worrying about them, who are we helping? No one. We could be worrying over absolutely nothing. What if everything is easily treated and no big deal? Then we’ve stressed out ourselves and everyone around us for nothing. Not fun. I, jokingly say… “Wait until you know what to worry about before you start worrying.” Seriously though, worrying is worthless. It doesn’t help, and it can even be a bother to those around you.

You can calmly plan. Personally, I brace myself to expect the worst news. That way, if the worst happens, I’m ready to hear that information. If the worst doesn’t happen, I’m very relieved.

Even on your worst days
• Discover beauty around you
• Find something to laugh about
• Thank God for your blessings
• Pray, without ceasing

*Pam Horton is a certified stress management coach in the Raleigh area.