Ask not for whom the bell tolls…

Ask not for whom the bell tolls…

It tolls for thee. ~John Donne~

Recently, I have had some conversations with people about untimely death and many of them have expressed a great fear of it.

I do understand the topic of death is a touchy subject, but as David Heckel once said, “Talking about sex doesn’t make you pregnant, and talking about death doesn’t make you dead.”  He’s right.

Why are people afraid to talk about it?  My guess would be fear of the unknown.

I confess that I used to be terrified of death.  I was afraid to fly because “What happens if we crash?!”  However, in more recent years, I have come to accept that death is, indeed, a part of life.  It will come to us all.  There is no avoiding it.

Can you prolong your life by living a healthy lifestyle?  I think so, but then… there are athletes who just drop.  Can you shorten your life by living an unhealthy lifestyle?  Seems so, but then… there are people over a hundred who have drank and smoked every day of their adult life.

My mother hopes she dies at a ripe old age, while she is asleep.  Yes, that is probably what most people would prefer.  Although, there are some who would prefer to die doing what they love best (whatever that may be).  Of course, we can’t know our future and accidents and diseases happen.  That’s where the unknown comes in.

Perhaps “preparation” can ease our minds.  Having a will, or a living will, in place can certainly ease any fears you may have of the situation you leave your family in.  To be perfectly honest – for me – it was coming into a personal relationship with God.  I know that when I leave this earth, I go to a far better place.  I have already chosen the song I want played at my funeral… “When I get where I’m goin’

Come to terms with the inevitable and discover a sense of peace about it.

Until then, I’ll leave you with the words of Mr. SPOCK… “Live long and prosper.”


*Pam Horton is a Board Certified Advanced Christian Life Coach, in the Raleigh area.*



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