Actions Speak Louder Than Words
I bet you know someone who is often talking about what they are going to do – and yet… they aren’t doing it.
We all know people like this. The person who talks about
- Wanting to lose weight – yet, they sit on the couch eating candy
- Wanting to save money or be debt free – yet, they spend money on wants instead of needs
- Needing to pass that last final to graduate – yet, they are out at the movies with friends instead of studying
- Wanting to get a job – yet, they aren’t really looking for one
- Wanting to stop drinking too much – yet, they’re out every weekend
- Numerous other topics you could fill in here
The question is … are they just giving their desires “lip service” with no real intention – OR do they have the desire but lack the commitment to follow through?
For the ones just giving lip service, not only are they doing themselves a disservice, but they are attempting to pull you in to their lack of desire to better themselves.
People who enjoy helping others need to be wary of folks who are only talking and never doing. Remember, you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink. The reality is, no matter how much we want to help someone, we can’t do it for them, and until they are ready and willing to make the change, they won’t. When you get to the point that you are tired of leading the horse to water only to have them poop in the pond, it may be time to distance yourself. Not to be mean, but to be real. Graciously let them know that you will be there for them when they are ready to make a commitment to that thing they are talking about doing, but until then, you won’t be an enabler.
For the ones who truly want to do what they have been talking about, but aren’t quite able to stick to it – here are some tips…
- Seek wise counsel
- Have a non-relative accountability partner
- Make a plan
- Set the goal
- One step at a time
- Stop making excuses
Now, if you find that you are not heeding wise counsel, getting angry at your accountability partner, and making excuses, perhaps you are actually in the “giving lip service” category. Just a thought.
Remember: The focus should not be on talking. Talk is cheap. It must be on action. ~Howard Berman~
You CAN make the positive change you have been talking about, when you make up your mind to!