The Drama Train
I have written about drama before… http://newdirectionlifecoaching.com/strife-happens/ … but I see it often.
Over-reacting or overly dramatic responses can ruin any occasion, whether it’s a
• Family event
• Friendly get together
• Typical day at the office
• School day
• Phone call
Once someone makes the leap from “cool and collected” to “overly dramatic,” things start to go downhill. Depending on the other people involved, things may even escalate. Much like the phrase, “Misery loves company,” people who love drama will quickly jump on the “drama train” and ride it as far as it will go.
Those of us who prefer not to be involved in drama often, very wisely, just walk away from the situation and let it run its course without us. I recently observed a couple of situations that started to get a little crazy. I saw one young man, at both instances, sitting off to the side. The first day, I walked by him and said “Wise man.” He just grinned. The second day, I said “Wise man, again.” He smiled and said “Yup.”
What about the times when the drama train gets rolling and someone yanks you onto it? You really only have two choices…
1. Join the fray and ride the drama train to the end
2. Look for the first available opportunity to get off
Let’s talk about option two, because, if you’re someone who enjoys drama, you’re cool with option one.
Here are a few ways you can get out of the middle of a dramatic situation…
• Decide to try to calm down the people involved, although this could backfire, focusing on areas of agreement
• Offer to take one party somewhere else until everyone has calmed down
• Walk away, literally, just refuse to engage; unless of course you are responsible for the outcomes
I try to avoid drama whenever possible. I find my life to be much less stressful that way.
*Pam Horton is a certified Stress Management coach in the Raleigh area.*