Compromise is important in any relationship
Have you ever been at opposite ends of an issue with someone?
Whether it’s in a work relationship, family, or friends – most of us have found ourselves miles apart on how something should be done. How did you resolve that issue?
There a few different ways to get things done.
• You can take a stand and insist your way is how it will be
• You can concede your stance and let the other person’s way be done
• You can continue to be in conflict and nothing ever gets done
• You can find an agreeable compromise
There are times when you need to take a stand. What’s that song? “If you don’t stand for something you’ll fall for anything.”
There are times when you need to let others take the lead.
There is never a time to continue in conflict so that nothing gets done.
But my favorite option here is the compromise.
Most times, if you calmly discuss things, weigh the pros and cons, and explore the options, an agreeable compromise can be found.
How can you reach a compromise?
• First, you’ve got to be willing to explore the options
• You’ve got to ask yourself, is this battle worth the possibility of losing the relationship with this person?
• Keep your temper, angry words once spoken can never truly be taken back (even if you say you’re sorry)
• Perhaps bring in an uninvolved third party mediator
• Remember, compromise is give and take, from both sides
Is there an issue you need to resolve? Avoidance won’t make it go away. Calmly face it, and choose whether you need to make a stand, concede your stance, or reach a compromise. You can do it.
Have a fantastic weekend!
*Pam Horton is a certified Stress Management coach in the Raleigh area.*